I love this Esther Perel quote. Really, it's all about building community. After Candy died I leaned heavily on my community, my village. It didn't matter the types of relationships I had with people in my community, they all mattered.
I don’t know how to put labels on love. No matter how folks categorize love, put love in buckets, I always find people I love in ways that don’t fit in any of the buckets, or perhaps fit in more than one bucket.
Why is it when we talk about nonmonogamy we stress consent and call it consensual nonmonogamy but when we talk about monogamy we don't stress consent so much? Shouldn't the stress in all relationship structures be on consent? Why not put just as much emphasis on consensual monogamy? Why not "Hell Yes!" monogamy? Shouldn't all relationships have agreed upon relationship agreements? You cannot have consent without agreement.
My motto for the new year is the serenity prayer:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
and Wisdom to know the difference.
